I still struggle

Right after Charles’ suicide, the only way I got through those first few weeks after my family left was to remind myself that it will never hurt as much as it did when we got that unbearable news.

A few months later I thought “getting better” or moving forward would mean I wouldn’t think of him every day. Then that thought would frighten me. But I do think of him every day and now I know I always will.

There are so many times I feel like a kite on a tight string in a high wind flapping furiously in circles–ready to snap any moment.

What am I here for? What does my life mean? Where am I going? Does what I did yesterday even matter?  Like I said, flapping in the wind, circling the drain, swimming upstream.

I’m tempted to run towards shiny objects because my heart hurts and I’ll do anything for a distraction from that. Like Charles, I crave to be around people and friends but I realize it’s not always possible.

I try to stay focused and intentional so I don’t feel like the circling kite. For that to happen, I have to remind myself of what I am grateful for to pull me back in sync.

Today I’m grateful for Richard–his ability to ground himself and follow his dream as a filmmaker.

What Richard said after his brother’s suicide

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Anne Moss Rogers

I am the mother of two boys and the owner of emotionally naked, a site that reached a quarter million people in its first 18 months. I am a writer and professional public speaker on the topics of suicide, addiction, mental illness, and grief and my book, Diary of a Broken Mind, will be published in the fall. I lost my youngest son, Charles, 20, to suicide June 5, 2015. As talented and funny as Charles was, letting other people know they matter was his greatest gift. And now the legacy I try and carry forward in my son's memory. Professional Speaker Website

5 thoughts on “I still struggle”

  1. Anne Moss, you have become the shiny object people who are on this journey gravitate towards. Thank you for not being a useless distraction (as so many shiny objects are) but a brilliant beacon of hope in this darkest of places. Hang in there. As others have said, your village stands with you. ❤️

  2. I’m sympathetic that you still struggle. Despite Charles’ death, you will always have the memories and history of Charles. Your “village” is here for you for any support.

  3. Ditto to all that. And I know we’re not supposed to be codependent but I gauge my well being by how well my 20 yr old daughter is doing since her only sibling Daniel killed himself. She’s doing amazingly well after crawling out of the depths this journey took her. She’s an inspiration to me.

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