Emotional hibernation

charles coke
Charles coke

There are times when I go into emotional hibernation. The length of this hibernation changes but the intensity is pretty consistent–sort of an undercurrent of heaviness.

I’ve realized this will never go away. The month of April is one of those times because Charles was born in April.

The holidays are another time I huddle up in emotional hibernation, sort of immobilized, indecisive, unfocused and unmotivated.  I do talk. But I don’t really want to. I go out. But it’s forced.

I’ve come to realize there will always be these moments–my time to grieve my boy. To love my child. Remember him and be unapologetically sad and dull. I’m allowed.

Emotional hibernation is curling up with grief. It’s embracing it and allowing it in.

Then it’s about allowing it to leave without feeling guilty.

It does lift. The clouds do part. I do wake up. I do live again.

Sorry to interrupt your beautiful life with my tragedy

7 thoughts on “Emotional hibernation”

  1. Anne Moss, you are living out the grieving process so beautifully and are such an encouragement to others grieving. Thank you for sharing your truth with us. ❤️

  2. I’ve referred to it as taking a little extra care of my hurting heart, same thing I think, and I am starting to realize that there will be obvious times (Birthday, Anniversary etc) but still can’t predict the unpredictable things that seem to set off a period of emotional hibernation. 💙

  3. I do too Anne Moss. My therapist calls mine a “grief season” – when there are many trigger dates one after the other. For me, it starts in late September near my birthday and then a week later is Whitten’s, and then it just steamrolls, with date after date until the funeral date on December 27. Then you are right – around New Year’s the clouds part and I’m clearer again. Until Mother’s Day….. You are not alone in this hideous cycle.

  4. This is John Frederick Rickard Bauder, I was at one time a student at Virginia Treatment Center For Children and Charles and I were friends for about 8 Months to a year until I left Virginia Treatment Center For Children in Richmond, Virginia I just found out about his passing and I want to be reached at johnbauder362@gmail.com and johnbauder362@facebook.com I never knew he had gotten worse and I am shocked to find out that he passed two years ago I never knew until I went on my Face book Page and started looking for my past friends and yes I am still alive and has Ms. Perkins retired by now I wander ? Ms. Perkins made a tremendous impact in my life when I went to School there with Charles and he didn’t let too many people call him Charlie I have missed Charles for a long time and I am sorry to hear about his passing My heart goes out to you Charles and God Bless you and you’re suffering Family’s

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