This is a phone call between a school administrator and a mom.
This happened just months ago to a friend. This is the kind of thing you run into when you have a child that suffers mental illness or addiction. The very people you expect to be on your side, are not. The people you expect to be reasonable are surprisingly without compassion.
School Administrator: Hi Mrs Ellerslie. We understand your son is currently at Tucker Psychiatric but he was caught on the school bus camera smoking marijuana. That is against school policy and carries a 10 day expulsion and he needs to come in front of the school disciplinary board 5 days from today.
Mrs. Ellerslie: (on 2 hours of sleep) We are aware of his drug use and we are addressing it. Patrick was checked in at 2:30am last night for suicidal thoughts with a plan. I don’t think he’s going to be stable enough to speak to a school disciplinary board in 5 days. He’s not out of the woods yet.
Administrator: Mrs Ellerslie, I don’t think you are grasping the situation on the bus! He broke the rules and it’s likely he will be charged for a criminal offense in addition to the expulsion. He needs to address the charges in front of the disciplinary board. These are very serious offenses!
Mrs. Ellerslie: I understand and I want him to face the consequences. However, my son is currently suicidal. His father and I have to turn our attention to his immediate critical needs right now. We are addressing the situation and we will comply with the policy but he is not capable of appearing before a board of 5 adults who want to question him in his current irrational state of mind.
What Mrs. Ellerslie wanted to say: Thanks for the compassion you bureaucratic, pencil-pushing moron. I got it that he broke a rule on the bus. But if I don’t attend to this current emergency situation I won’t have a son to send to the f—ing disciplinary hearing.