A letter to my younger self

Dear Anne Moss,

I want to write you from a position of wisdom. First, I don’t want you to beat yourself up for making the choice of staying at home with your boys.

I know you struggled with the decision. You gave up income, your creative outlet, and your ambition. But from where I sit, I’m telling you it will be a decision that years later, you will be glad you made. Spend as much time as you can with them. It will count and you will be so glad you have those memories of their childhood.

You think it’s so hard now when they are little and will get easier later.

That’s not really how it happens because you have less control over what they do. Your children are created in you but they are their own person and will make decisions you cannot control. I want you to understand that now.

There will be times that something you figured out is way ahead of its time and you will be frustrated from the lack of resources. There are times you will feel a lack of support for something you know to be the right thing but culture will not have caught up to your way of thinking. But eventually it will catch up and I want you to be that agent of change.

Keep pushing the envelope. Things that people criticize you now about, will be assets later. You will find your purpose and you will find it in the most unexpected way. And you’ll know it when it happens.

Most of all, be kind to yourself. Life can be very difficult, very challenging and take twists and turns you never saw coming. Rely on your resilience, find your support system and stay your true self.

The letter from heaven I wish I would get

Author: Anne Moss Rogers

I am the owner of emotionally naked, a site that reached a quarter million people in its first 18 months. I am President of Beacon Tree Foundation, advocates for youth mental health as well as a writer and public speaker on the topics of suicide, addiction, mental illness, and grief. I lost my youngest son, Charles, 20, to suicide June 5, 2015. I was a marketing professional for years prior to losing my son and co-owned a digital marketing firm.

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