Alter Ego: A lot of new people at this party
Me: I love meeting new people
Alter Ego: What will you say if they ask how many kids you have?
Me: Maybe I will just mention Richard
Alter Ego: What about Charles?
Me: I don’t know. Just saying I have one sort of makes me feel like I don’t honor his memory
Alter Ego: Saying he died is such a conversation killer
Me: Well I’m not going to say “Hi my name is Anne Moss, I had a child die by suicide”
Alter Ego: Let’s hope not
Me: If it comes up…
Alter Ego: And if it comes up, what do you say?
Me: I say I raised two boys– one of them graduated from college and living in NC and we lost our youngest who died by suicide in 2015. He suffered from depression and addiction
Alter Ego: Do you have to say suicide? Can’t you just skip the triple stigma?
Me: No, I can’t. It’s important to talk about it
Alter Ego: People don’t want to talk about it
Me: That’s why kids don’t open up. I’m not going to force an entire conversation about it. But I have found when I do say it, others open up.
Alter Ego: It will make you uncomfortable
Me: I’ll get used to it. I need to say it like it is
Alter Ego: Aren’t you worried what people might think?
Me: I don’t. That’s the special privilege you get when you lose a child.
Alter Ego: Charles was so sweet. So loving.
Me: And he deserves to be acknowledged.