When grieving, you feel very alone, very isolated. But do know if you are grieving, you are not alone. It’s simply that the nature of grieving has a component of pain so deep, you shut down temporarily to give yourself space to absorb the emotional tsunami that often takes you down to your knees or inspires you to scream at the car dashboard. The part where you feel your worst is where it’s the most isolating. You can’t share that part with anyone else. It’s simply too personal and a painful part of the process.
I do know that grieving is healing. And sometimes I want to avoid it because it hurts so much. But each grief attack has a purpose and collectively the episodes have moved me to a different place in my journey. I have learned to reach out to others when I need it although that is not always easy. I have also reached out to others when I think they need it and find that it was as good for me as it was for them.